Good morning, and what a beautiful morning it is! While I’m sitting here writing, the sun is shining, and the weather looks set to be beautiful this weekend. While I can’t wait to spend a little time in the garden this afternoon, it’s also bittersweet – I should have been on-site with one of our wedding planners this weekend taking care of the most beautiful Norfolk wedding, so it already feels weird that I’m in my pj’s at home.
Ironic really, the gorgeous bride had always been worried about bad weather (sidenote – find out how to weather-proof a marquee wedding here) throughout the wedding planning process when actually, the weather was the last thing to be concerned about, thanks coronavirus!
Anyway, just a few thoughts from me today as this week I’ve heard lots of stories of postponement and cancellation negotiations descend into chaos between wedding couples and wedding suppliers (to be clear, not with our wedding planning couples!).
I do understand that it’s an incredibly difficult time for all and as wedding planners, we’re very much at the coalface, trying to negotiate solutions between wedding venues, wedding suppliers and our wedding planning couples.
So, I’m going to simplify my advice into three words – communication is key! In these unprecedented circumstances, being open, transparent and honest with all parties is the way to find the best resolution for all parties.
Suppliers – please remember that couples trying to postpone their wedding will have multiple wedding suppliers to move to a new date. At one Curious Dream, some of our wedding planning clients have 25+ suppliers, so it would be a bloody miracle if we could find a date that everybody could easily move to. If the wedding planning couple picks a date that you can’t do, please don’t take it personally, because honestly, some elements will always trump others.
For the most part (with One Curious Dream couples at least), securing a wedding photographer and caterer for a new date will always take priority over the special touches like a photo booth. It’s a harsh reality, but couples moving their wedding are trying to satisfy the majority of their suppliers, and sometimes this might mean they can’t take you with them.
Couples – PLEASE be respectful of the situation your wedding suppliers are in – e.g. facing the loss of an entire years worth of income. It’s safe to assume you chose your wedding suppliers in the first place because you loved what they offered and you were excited that they could be part of your wedding day.
I bet you connected on a human level and enjoyed the interactions throughout the booking process and hopefully got to know that wedding supplier on a more human level.
Here’s the crack, NOTHING HAS CHANGED. That wedding supplier is still the same person, desperately, DESPERATELY clinging onto their hope and sanity while facing the most challenging time their business will ever undergo.
If your wedding supplier is unable to move to your new date, you will likely request a refund for any monies paid. Please be aware that your wedding supplier will be entitled to deduct funds for any work already undertaken including booking admin, design proposals, emails and consultations etc. It may be that they agree to offer a refund but simply don’t have the funds as yet – please be patient and accept that we’re all in this together.
There’s so much advice that I could share, but honestly, I’d be here forever! Please keep communicating in a positive, respectful way, after all; we’re all working towards the same end goal and cheesy as it is, we’re so much stronger together!
If you’re a wedding supplier or a couple planning their wedding and want to chat, don’t be afraid to reach out – drop us a line to firstname.lastname@example.org