Positive wedding mindset – is it even possible?!
Hi and welcome back to the Weddings by One Curious Dream wedding blog, great to see you here! As wedding planners working with couples who are getting married across London & the East of England (Norfolk, Suffolk, Cambridge & Essex), we know that the last few months have been incredibly challenging for anybody with a connection to the wedding industry – whether you’re a couple planning your wedding, a wedding venue or wedding supplier, COVID has turned 2020 upside down.
It’s been a tough time with everybody in the wedding industry navigating unchartered waters together amidst so much uncertainty, and of course, the lack of direction from the UK government really hasn’t helped! Honestly, I could speak (aka moan!) about this for hours, but these last few weeks, I’ve tried to take a slightly different approach to preserve my sanity!
So, today, I’d like to explore something a little off-topic – how to develop a positive mindset and keep your shit together when the world around you is losing theirs! Whilst having a positive mindset won’t make issues related to your wedding vanish into thin air, it may just help you to manage any wedding challenges in a way that feels less stressful and will ultimately help you be more productive and pragmatic when having to make the tough decisions.
Here are a couple of tips that have helped me to stay focused, optimistic and able to support our wedding planning clients through their wedding postponements. I hope they help you too.
Find the rainbow amongst the rain.
Look, I know this sounds painfully obvious, but, TRY to focus on the positives – even when it feels like everything is going wrong, there’s always a silver lining.
Let me give you an example, one of our summer 2020 wedding planning couples have had to postpone their wedding to summer 2022. However, having this extra time has meant more opportunity to save the pennies, and as a result, these couples are now able to add a videographer and additional statement flowers to their budget. Does it make up for postponing their wedding? Of course not. BUT is there a small silver lining? Definitely!
Find the people who feel like sunshine.
Sounds cheesy, but it’s so true! Hanging out with people who have a negative vibe is only going to drag you down further. One of the most common things we’ve heard from our wedding planning couples this year is that the stress of negative (although clearly well-meaning) friends and family constantly badgering them have made postponing their wedding even tougher to deal with.
As wedding planners, we get it – you want the lead-up to your wedding to be super fun and exciting, so when you have people always asking “ are you going to postpone your wedding” and are filling your head with sad news articles, it’s not going to help you emotionally.
Our advice? Shut out the noise, talk to each other and seek out the people in your circle who have sunnier dispositions. Not only will they help you to look at things practically, hopefully removing the emotion from the equasion, but they’ll also likely make you feel better in the process too.
Every day is a new day.
Fully appreciate this sounds super cheesy, but it’s so important to start your day the right way, e.g., with a positive mental attitude. Ultimately, you can’t control everything happening around you, but you can control how you respond to each situation as it occurs.
So start your day but telling yourself that it WILL be a good day and that no matter what happens, you’re bad-ass enough to handle anything and everything that comes your way!
I start with my day with a run and a high octane soundtrack, it gets the heart racing and helps release all of those endorphins into your body. If running isn’t quite your bag, pop on a playlist at home that makes you happy and don’t be afraid to sing your heart out!
Most importantly, even if your previous day was bad, don’t carry over negative emotions into your new day – dwelling on a bad situation won’t improve it. Instead, focus on finding the joy in your day and keep the faith that the future will be rosier.
I know it’s hard, and that these are tough times for all of us, but don’t give up and try, try, try your hardest to keep on smiling.
ps: If you’re a couple getting married across London, Norfolk, Suffolk, Cambridge or Essex and need a little help with your wedding plans, we’d love to hear from you! You can reach us on 0800 772 0765 or email@example.com or you can book a free, no-obligation wedding consultation here.