Let’s face it, sharing the news of your engagement at work is super exciting – in fact, you’re bound to spend a fair bit of time graciously accepting congratulations from your colleagues and of course flashing that sparkly ring about the place! Having said that, one of the common dilemmas facing many modern couples when planning their wedding is how to deal with inviting colleagues to your big day. Here are our top tips to make sure you navigate this scenario smoothly!
- The first thing to say is that it’s YOUR big day, and YOU get to choose who should be on the guest list. According to Brides magazine, the average cost of a UK wedding is now well over £24,000 so inviting a significant number of colleagues could really do some damage to the bank account. In the first instance, consider the culture at your office – how traditional/formal is it? In many professional environments, it’s the norm to invite your manager but this does, of course, depend on your relationship with them! Have a chat with married colleagues and determine what has happened in the past to help you make an informed decision.
- The next thing to consider is the size of your organisation. If you work in a huge company, it is much easier to invite selected guests only as most people will understand that weddings are costly and your budget isn’t endless. If you are in a smaller business, this still doesn’t mean you need to invite everybody – if you only want to handpick a few of your closest co-workers, simply saying that your venue caps the number of guests you can invite will help you save face with uninvited colleagues.
- The all or nothing method! How close are you really with your colleagues? If you rarely socialise outside of work hours, it may be easy to avoid inviting anybody – again, you can simply say that your numbers are very limited or that you are only having family and close friends attending. Similarly, if you really enjoy the company of your colleagues, invite them all! One lovely compromise is to simply ask people to attend the evening bash which will generally cost less than the full day option.
- Lastly, and we’ll say it again, regardless of your budget, make sure you make decisions that you are comfortable with – crippling yourself financially to invite the entire sales team is madness and unnecessary. People do understand how expensive weddings are nowadays and they also appreciate that couples want to do things their way so make sure you do!