Look, folks, we know it’s strange times out there right now with coronavirus impacting the entire planet and weddings being postponed left, right and centre. But, amidst the madness, so many couples and our wedding planning clients are still focusing their energies on planning for a 2021/2022 wedding and want to get the ball rolling with making their wedding plans, so life must go on!
As professional wedding planners working across London & East Anglia (Norfolk, Suffolk, Cambridge & Essex), one of the first tasks we ask our wedding planning clients to undertake is compiling a rough guest list.
For those of you who have already been through the process of deciding who you should invite to your wedding, you’ll appreciate that this is much easier said than done! So, where do you start? Here is our top wedding planning advice for putting together your wedding guest list.
The Wedding Budget!
It probably won’t surprise you that you’ll need to have a rough idea about how much you can afford to spend on your wedding. This is the time for open and honest conversations about the financial side of the wedding so that you can set off on the right foot on your wedding planning journey. There’s lots of info about planning your wedding budget available on this blog, so do take a look through. It’s also worth chatting with parents or any other people who are likely to contribute to your wedding funds so you have a clearer idea of the overall weddings funds available.
Prioritise the task
It may seem odd, but after determining your wedding budget, your next wedding planning task is to create your wedding guest list. Why? Simply, if you’re not sure how many guests you would like to invite to your wedding, how will you be able to narrow down appropriate wedding venues when you begin your search?
At the very least, before you start the wedding venue search, you’ll need to have a rough overview of not only how many wedding guests you’re likely to invite, but also, realistically, how many you think are likely to come. It may sound a little blunt, but most couples have a least few people that they must invite, but realistically, aren’t likely to attend your wedding, perhaps because they are living overseas or have underlying health conditions. To begin with, include everybody who might be a potential invitee on the wedding guest list, we’ll narrow it down a little later.
Create your wedding guest list rules
Here’s where it starts to get a little trickier – deciding who you are going to invite can be a political minefield so tread carefully! Firstly, decide on whether you’re happy to invite children to your wedding or whether you’d prefer an adults-only affair.
Next, consider how will you extend plus one invites. As a general rule, anybody who is married, engaged or in a long-term relationship would usually be on the guestlist, but this, of course, does depend on the unique set of circumstances for each couple.
And now the tough part…
So, you’ve determined your wedding budget, got a rough number of how many guests you’d like to invite and have also decided on your wedding guest list rules. Now’s the tricky part, chopping this list down to your dream team of wedding invitees!
The first questions to ask yourselves are:
- Can you see yourselves getting married without that person there to share your wedding day?
- Do we regularly socialise with this person or at least maintain a close relationship?
- When was the last time you had contact with this person?
- Did this person invite us to their wedding?
You should now be left with your list of wedding invitees and can move on to the next stage of planning your wedding, congrats!
If you’d like to chat through the plans for your wedding with our team of professional wedding planners, we’d love to hear from you! You can reach us on 0800 772 0765 or firstname.lastname@example.org